Monday, May 18, 2009

You Sat Vajayjay I Say Vagina

Vajayjay...
Vagina...
Snatch...
Pussy...
Cunt...
Vulva...
Vulva???

Does it matter what words we use to describe our genitals, our junk, our reproductive organs, our penises, vaginas, our what-have-yous?

Unlike many people I know, I do think it matters what terms we use and I am endlessly fascinated by what words people use to describe their "stuff" down there.

Growing up, I was one of those weird kids whose mom taught them the "proper" words for her body parts (she mentioned them once or twice but was progressive enough to usually call them my "private parts") and I think that has stuck with me over the years. My baby sister taught me the word vajayjay, and I laughed so hard I thought I was going to break something when she said it. I still feel like giggling when I hear someone say it, I just can't seem to take that word seriously.

I'll admit, I usually refer to my vagina, as my vagina, unless I am trying to get a rise out of someone (namely my partner, who knows my desire to use the "correct" word at the correct time). I've even been known to go so far as to correct people when they call it a vagina when they are really talking about is the vulva. This doesn't usually win me any friends.

What's the difference between the vulva and the vagina? I mean, they both sound very medical and scientific, and I guess that is why a lot of people don't like the terms, but the difference, in case you are curious, is that the vagina is the internal part, the part that sometimes is penetrated, the part you usually don't see, the part from which blood sometimes flows. The vulva is covered by the labia, which sometimes has to be moved aside to see the vulva, but it is there and is the part of a woman's "private parts" that you, she, anyone can see when she spreads her legs.

The vulva is generally what people are talking about when they use terms like snatch, pussy, cunt, vajayjay and the endless list of other words which sound less scientific and often make me wonder where in the hell these words came from and why people use them.

What words to you use to describe a woman's "lower anatomy", her genitals, her vagina?
Where did you learn these words and what were you taught to use when you were growing up?
Why do you use the words you use and what words do you like or hate when other people use?

In case you are curious, I don't like the term twat, or vajayjay. I have mixed feelings about the word cunt; I think it is ok, even powerful, when used to talk about the vulva, but I am furious when it is used as an insult to cut someone down. I prefer the word vulva to vagina, even though they describe two different things and I am constantly amazed at all the terms I've never heard before!

1 comment:

  1. Is this blog dead? I enjoy talking about sex when I should be working and like your writing style.

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